Relationship check-in questions that stay practical

A check-in works when it is about how your days actually run, not a score out of ten. These questions cover phones at dinner, how chores are split, time alone and the compromises that could use another look. Most answers lead to one small change.

Set aside half an hour once a month and pick three questions. End by agreeing on one thing to try, not a list.

1. Which shared responsibility would you like us to divide differently?
2. How do you feel about how much we use our phones when we’re together?
3. What do we keep doing out of habit rather than enjoyment?
4. Which compromise between us could use another look?
5. What takes more energy from you than I realize?
6. What do you need from me when you say you'll handle something?
7. Which thing would you want me to check before promising our time to someone else?
8. What do I find relaxing that you don’t?
9. What do I do around the house that you'd miss if I stopped?
10. How much time apart would feel right to you?
11. How much of a weekend do you like having for your own projects?
12. What would a quiet weekend look like for you?
13. Which decision would you rather make jointly even if you were paying for it entirely yourself?
14. Which routine of ours would you want to keep even if our schedules changed?
15. What plan of ours do we still need to make a proper decision about?