How well do you know me? A quiz for couples

After a few years together it is easy to assume you know every answer. Each question here is written as the answerer talking about themselves, with options to pick from, so you can check your guess against the real thing. The surprises are the point.

One of you picks an answer without showing it; the other reads the options aloud and guesses. Swap after each question and keep a tally.

1. What would I most enjoy on a date with you?
   • Dinner somewhere new
   • Exploring a place together
   • Cooking something at home
   • Going to a show
2. How would I most like to celebrate my next birthday?
   • Dinner with a few favorite people
   • A big party
   • A trip away
   • A quiet day with no plans
3. Which surprise would make me happiest?
   • A visit from a friend I miss
   • A whole weekend with no obligations
   • Tickets to see someone I love
   • A day you planned for us
4. Which compliment would mean the most to me?
   • About my taste
   • About how I look
   • About my effort
   • About my judgment
5. What gets me out of a bad mood fastest?
   • Something to eat
   • Time alone
   • Getting outside
   • You making me laugh
6. Which food would I find hardest to give up?
   • Bread
   • Cheese
   • Chocolate
   • Pasta
7. What's my favorite kind of cuisine to eat?
   • Italian
   • Asian
   • Mexican
   • Mediterranean
8. Which kind of place would I most like to live in for a year?
   • A busy city
   • A small town
   • Somewhere by the sea
   • The countryside
9. Which live event would I most like us to go to?
   • A concert
   • A comedy show
   • A play or musical
   • A sports match
10. What would I most like to show you from before we met?
    • The place where I grew up
    • Photos from my teenage years
    • A place I spent a lot of time
    • Something I made or worked on
11. What kind of gift would I most enjoy receiving from a friend?
    • Something they made
    • A book they loved
    • Something edible
    • A day out together
12. What makes me warm to someone quickly?
    • They make me laugh
    • They ask real questions
    • They’re direct
    • They’re good at something
13. What would surprise people most about me?
    • An impulsive choice I made
    • What I spend money on
    • A risk I still want to take
    • How little I plan
14. What do I find most intimidating?
    • Speaking to a crowd
    • Meeting someone I admire
    • Having a confrontation
    • Walking into a room of strangers
15. What topic can I never resist arguing about?
    • Food
    • Money
    • Politics
    • Films and TV
16. What do I do when I'm ready to leave a party?
    • Give you a look
    • Start saying goodbyes
    • Go quiet
    • Stay till the end anyway
17. On a free day, which thing am I most likely to call “doing nothing”?
    • Finishing several little jobs
    • Going down a long research rabbit hole
    • Rewatching something for hours
    • Wandering around shops without a plan
18. Which subject would I happily talk about for an hour?
    • Something I studied
    • A hobby of mine
    • A place I’ve lived
    • A show I’m watching
19. Which skill would I most like to learn?
    • Speaking another language
    • Playing a musical instrument
    • Taking better photos
    • Cooking a wider range of meals
20. Which kind of TV show would I most enjoy watching with you?
    • A crime drama
    • A comedy series
    • A history documentary
    • A cooking competition
21. What matters most to me when choosing a restaurant?
    • The food
    • The atmosphere
    • The price
    • How close it is
22. How do I prefer to catch up with a friend who lives far away?
    • Text messages
    • Phone calls
    • Video calls
    • Voice notes
23. What makes me actually change my mind about something?
    • New information
    • Someone I respect disagreeing
    • Realizing I was wrong
    • Seeing it work in practice
24. We’re guests at a dinner where nobody knows us well. What would make me relax fastest?
    • Someone asks a specific question
    • I find a shared interest
    • The host admits something went wrong
    • You start enjoying yourself
25. If we could afford shorter workweeks, what would I choose?
    • The same extra day off together
    • Different days off for time alone
    • Time for a project I keep postponing
    • Keep working and spend more on holidays