Spicy questions for couples

Many couples have sex for years without talking about it much. These questions open that conversation: what you think about, what you would like more of and the things you have wanted to ask but have not. They are direct, adult and meant for the two of you only.

Start with the gentler ones near the top and move down only if you both want to. Either of you can skip, and a skip needs no reason.

1. Is there anything you’d like more of when we’re in bed together?
2. What would you like us to talk about more openly before sex?
3. How do you feel about using toys during sex?
4. What would make sex feel more exciting to you right now?
5. How do you feel about leaving some clothes on during sex?
6. What turns you on most about my body or how I touch you?
7. When was the last time you wanted sex and didn't say so?
8. What do you think about when you imagine us having sex?
9. What part of my body do you wish I felt better about?
10. What could I say in bed that you'd like to hear more often?
11. What's your most reliable signal that you want sex?
12. What do you like hearing from me during sex?
13. When do you feel most attractive in bed?
14. Which time we had sex do you think about most?
15. What would you like to know about what I enjoy in bed?
16. What do you want me to do more of during sex?
17. How much does getting ready beforehand change how you feel about sex?
18. What's something about sex you've wanted to ask me but haven't?
19. How do you prefer to show me you're turned on?