A spicy couples quiz: how well do you know what they like?

You may think you know what your partner likes, but have you checked? Each question is written as the answerer talking about themselves, with options to choose from, so guessing is easy and the reveal does the talking. It is for adults who are comfortable being candid.

One of you picks an answer privately; the other reads the options and guesses. Talk about any miss before moving on.

1. When do I find you most irresistible?
   • When you're dressed up
   • When you take charge
   • When you're half asleep
   • When you're confident with people
2. What most often makes me feel desirable?
   • You initiating affection
   • You saying exactly what attracts you
   • You looking pleased when I walk in
   • You making time to be close
3. What makes me want sex with you most?
   • When you initiate
   • Compliments on my body
   • Knowing what you want
   • How you look at me
4. How would I most like you to initiate sex?
   • Asking directly
   • Starting to undress me
   • A long kiss
   • A message earlier that day
5. What would most likely make a kiss stay in my memory?
   • The anticipation before it
   • Where it happened
   • How unexpectedly it started
   • How long neither of us wanted to stop
6. When we’re kissing, what am I most likely to enjoy?
   • Taking our time
   • A little playfulness
   • Being pulled closer
   • A pause to look at each other
7. What kind of flirting would I most enjoy receiving by text?
   • A direct message about wanting me
   • A reference only we understand
   • A teasing comment about later
   • A compliment about something specific
8. What would most make me feel desired by you right now?
   • Initiating sex
   • Unprompted compliments
   • Physical affection
   • A message from you
9. After sex, what do I want first?
   • To stay close and quiet
   • To talk about it
   • To shower
   • To fall asleep
10. At what time of day am I usually most interested in sex?
    • When I first wake up
    • During the afternoon
    • Early in the evening
    • Late at night
11. What lighting do I prefer during sex?
    • Bright lighting
    • Dim lighting
    • Complete darkness
    • I don’t have a preference
12. What pace do I usually prefer during sex?
    • Slow throughout
    • Starting slow and building up
    • Energetic from the start
    • Switching between slow and fast
13. What kind of talking do I most enjoy during sex?
    • Affectionate words
    • Saying explicitly what feels good
    • Playful comments
    • I prefer very little talking
14. What part of sex do I enjoy most?
    • The build-up
    • Undressing each other
    • The middle of it
    • Lying together afterward
15. Where would I most like to have sex besides the bedroom?
    • The shower
    • The sofa
    • A hotel room
    • Outdoors somewhere private
16. On a night when we’re both tired but affectionate, what would I most want?
    • A long kiss before sleep
    • Cuddling with no expectation
    • A little playful flirting
    • A slow massage
17. When I'm not in the mood, how do I prefer to say so?
    • Just saying not tonight
    • Suggesting another time
    • Staying close without sex
    • Explaining why
18. What would most help me say what I want in bed?
    • You asking me directly
    • You telling me yours first
    • Talking about it outside the bedroom
    • You showing no reaction either way
19. What would make an intimate conversation easier for me?
    • Talking while lying together
    • Having it away from the bedroom
    • Starting with a specific question
    • Being able to pause and return to it
20. Which change would most help me feel relaxed during intimacy?
    • More privacy
    • More time
    • Less pressure to respond a certain way
    • An easier way to say what I want
21. What's one thing I could do more often during sex?
    • Make more sound
    • Ask you what you want
    • Slow down
    • Take the lead
22. What would I be most interested in browsing in a sex shop?
    • Underwear or lingerie
    • Sex toys
    • Massage oils
    • Erotic books
23. Where would I find it easiest to relax on a date?
    • A hotel away from home
    • Our place without interruptions
    • A familiar restaurant
    • A quiet outdoor spot