Questions to ask your wife about who she is now

People keep changing after the wedding, and it is easy to miss it in the routine. These questions ask about who she is now: what she is learning, what she has stopped caring about and what she misses from her life before you. Some answers may surprise you.

Ask one over a slow breakfast or a walk, then follow her answer rather than moving to the next question. Share your own answer too.

1. What would you like to learn from someone you know?
2. What is a decision you made that changed how you see yourself?
3. What did you agree to reluctantly that later became your preference?
4. What is something you used to care about that no longer feels important?
5. What part of your life before me do you miss most?
6. Who do you miss spending time with?
7. What did you once think you were bad at that you’ve since learned to do?
8. What promise turned out to be harder to keep than you expected?
9. What would you study just because it interests you?
10. What did you want to be when you were younger that you still think about?
11. Which expectation from your family have you decided not to follow?
12. How much of a weekend do you like having for your own projects?
13. What would a quiet weekend look like for you?
14. What have you been wanting to learn lately?
15. What’s something you’ve enjoyed recently that you think I’d enjoy too?